Silver Solder is hard solder. You can get this stuff up to 40% silver content. Really it is meant to be used with a torch, not an iron. The problem here is that you run the risk of annealing the metal that you are trying to bond when using a torch. 40% silver solder is used for jewelery and brass musical instrument repair, using a propane torch. I don't know what Sta Brites silver content is, but my experience is that you will need a 40 watt iron (not a soldering gun) and 100 watt even better.
Stay Brite flux is essentially dilluted acid so it is pretty corrosive. Not only can it corrode your joints but it can also chew up your soldering tips. The tips should be clean and use one of those soldering sponges to wipe the tip clean between applications. The tips are coated so don't clean them with a wire brush Flux helps to conduct heat and gets the solder to flow. Given the proper temperature most of the flux gasses off and there is greater heat conductivity where the flux was applied and hopfully the solder will flow where you put the flux, giving you a better joint.
Acid based flux, when it gasses off, will get on the surrounding metal and corrode it. You have to immediatley brush surrounding areas and the joint clean. I use baking soda or baking soda toothpaste. I have yet to see a properly done joint corrode under the solder. Definetly have seen solder joints corrode around the joint. Don't inhale this stuff.
60/40 is more user friendly but I still use seperate rosin flux, even if the solder has a rosin core. I prefer solid solder because I use seperate flux. When I do use silver solder it is wilth a torch or 100 watt iron. I don't see the need for using silver solder on airplanes unless you are worried about the strength of control systems or landing gear, and there are better solder free solutions to these applications. Silver solder for tanks isn't necessary.
Get a 40 watt Iron, stand and sponges. A 40 watt iron works great wth 60/40 solder Good sources for these items are Radio Shack, Internet Slot car shops or Stained glass window supply houses via amazon. A weller 40 watt Iron you can get at Home Depot. You can get a Weller 40 watt temp controlled station fo 35 dollars. The temp control isn't really necessary, mine is always set to high except for electrical. Buy some 3/16 chisel tips from Weller. IMO soldering guns are worthless.