Thanks everyone. Brett, when I get to the point where the model is directly over head I can't figure out if should continue to hold down or neutral for a bit, I have no idea, my top loop ends being a half loop as I always seem to be applying to much down. Does that make sense? It's hard to describe in writing, what I'm looking for is what is your hand doing at the top.
I don't think about it as handle position, I think of it as control pressure/effort. As you climb in the first loop (inside, just at the entry at the bottom*), you need A LOT of control pressure to get it started, then much less to get it to go around the radius. The higher you get, the less pressure it takes, then the pressure goes up as you near the bottom again. Then, less-less-less until you get to the intersection, a quick spike from inside to outside in the intersection. As you climb further, it takes less and less outside pressure, then right at the top, it reaches a minimum. Nothing really much happens right at the top, you keep the same handle pressure/position until it starts coming down again, gradually add outside pressure as you reach the intersection, then a quick spike to get it from inside to outside, then increasing inside pressure as it gets to the bottom.
You require less control deflection for any given turn as you get higher on the sphere. That's because it's not fighting gravity and the speed tends to bleed off as you get higher. As the wind increases, the effect is exaggerated. Back in the good old days with 4-2 break motors and 15 mph of wind, it was very common to be hanging the thing on one line at the bottom of the vertical 8 - at which point you are merely a spectator, hoping it comes out in the right spot. This is arguably the hardest maneuver to do in heavy wind, depending on the airplane.
This all presumes you don't have some other issue. Many, many times, the problem is not a function of handle manipulation, but of perception - being able to maintain your orientation throughout the maneuver. Once you turn your head up to follow the airplane, you can lose sight of the ground, and then get disoriented. I am a big advocate of using your posture to create a "reference frame" to do the maneuvers. See many previous posts on the topic.
Brett