For sure you have a disaster on your hands. You could remove the RUST-OLEUM or you could top coat everything in Urethane when you get it close. Two parts (catalyzed urethane) and then sand it flat and buff. From now on stick with all like products.
You can paint RUST-OLEUM over lacquer but not lacquer over RUST-OLEUM. RUST-OLEUM is a enamel and is a mechanical bond type paint and Lacquer is a chemical bond type paint. Meaning the thinners in Lacquer's are too hot for mineral base paints.
Just as you can paint Sig dope over Aerogloss but not Aerogloss over anything but Aerogloss products. Aerogloss thinners are not just regular Lacquer thinners they are a mix of xylene and MEK. Way to hot for anything. I think (but have not tried) Aerogloss would wrinkle Ureathane.
This last bit is just a FYI and does not pertain to this issue
There is only one Ureathane impervious to NITRO and that is a Sherwin Williams Ureathane called Sunfire. Up to 60% Nitro is the claim.
SUNFIRE® Acrylic Urethane Basecoat System 365 Series http://apps.sherwin-automotive.com/help/popup/product_qualities.cfm#Sunfire_base