Rich, I don't know why you're not using silkspan, but you almost certainly should. It not only helps to fill the grain, but it puts a hard "skin" onto the balsa that makes it harder to ding and gouge, and it adds considerable overall structural strength, to boot. If you're trying to fill all the grain then you'll have a lighter plane in the end if you use silkspan, too.
Lighter, stronger, easier, better looking -- what's not to like?