I use XT-60, because I'm lazy, they're easy to get, they seem to be as close to an industry standard as we have (and the cheap battery packs come with them installed).
If I had to source my own parts and assemble my own connectors onto everything, I'd probably use Deans. But, see "lazy", above.
... Deans, and you have to be careful not to get the cheap ones ...
"Deans" is an actual brand name, and if I recall from some looking around on the web, they will sell direct.
So the way to know you're not getting the cheap ones is if the package actually
says "Deans".