An airplane has to weight what it weighs to do what it needs to do no more, no less. Airplanes that are built too light and need weight to fix CG issues are not built right. Airplanes built too light and wiggle don't do what they need to do. Airplanes built with stuff to make them stronger "because they need it" are too heavy. If the airplane is strong enough to survive what it needs then it is good enough. Adding carbon fiber, a fad favorite of many, doesn't do anything but add fancy and weight for bragging rights. Manage the needs and when it's finished it will weight what it needs to and that is that. I very rarely weigh my airplanes unless there is a minimum weight requirement for the class. What they weigh is basically irrelevant provided the CG is correct and they are strong enough for the mission.
Yes, build the model for the purpose. Absolutely.
I know of a model at 42" in span and weighs 82 ounces. No, not one of mine.
That certainly sounds heavy, however, without seeing the model and the building efforts, plus the many functions which the model has, full blown scale BTW, 82 ounces can be considered "reasonable" for this particular model.
I don't care about weight either. Choose wood correctly.
I have no models over 55 ounces, and it's just the way they came out. One, the first one I sold, was a bit heavier, the buyer will only use it for static display.