Good luck!
The best I can do is commiserate. I was trying to do some maintenance on an F2C model the night before a race. These planes are really light and use very light (and easily damaged) balsa in the wings. I touched a drop or two of CyA into the mid-wing line connection holes to keep the internal connection clips from chewing up the inside of the wing and damaging the fiberglass skins, or possibly catching on chewed up balsa and jamming the controls--and the glue wicked thru 3 inches of endgrain and glued the bellcrank into the holder, solid! We did not race the next day....
Lesson 1: Balsa is like a collection of straws, and thin CyA has low viscosity! It is far safer to use thicker CyA when you can't control where it is going.
Lesson 2: Using straight nitromethane applied directly to the parts was useless. Applying it repeatedly over a period of days did nothing. break Soaking it in nitromethane did not reduce the strength enough to break the bellcrank loose with force.
Lesson 3: Same as lesson 2, but using acetone.
Lesson 4: The limiting factor is the exposure to the solvent/stripper/debonder. If it only touches the edge of the glued-together-but-shouldn't be-seam, then it will take forever for any debonding to occur chemically. The seam will be deep; see Lesson 1 again.
Lesson 5: Sometimes you can't find good advice in the middle of the night (before a race) to start repairs with the least invasive approach. Even so, I would have been better off starting surgery immediately, cutting into the fuselage shell, grinding out the bellcrank mount and taking soldering iron and pliers to the bellcrank, then making new parts and reassembling the fuselage shell. As it was, I had to do all those steps anyway--I just wasted a week fooling with debonding attempts.
Lesson 6: You only know Lesson 5 is true in your specific case in hindsight.
Heat will work if you can do it without damaging anything, or if the only damage was to stuff that was easier to fix than any other repair technique. It wouldn't work for me because I had to tear out the plywood bellcrank mount to get at where the glue was not supposed to be. Machinists often use a "glue chuck" to hold material during machining using CyA. They hit the metal parts with a heat gun to pop it loose.
So again, good luck, but know that you aren't alone in having this kind of problem.