Always follow the mfg's spec. I've looked into it before. Standard fasteners can be installed TTY, but simply checking the installation process and common torque values for standard sizes would tell you if the bolt is being yielded. Typical TTY install is torque to value, plus "X" number degrees. If a torque value is spec'd which is greater than the typical value, I'd replace it. If it's marked 10.9, the material is defined. That is you can't have a common 10.9 bolt that's somehow different than another 10.9 if the dimensions are the same. How would you know otherwise?
Some "one time use" fasteners are simply due to loctite. Flywheel bolts on M54 BMW are one I ran into. Manual says replace them. Bolts were 12.9. Replacement bolt photos showed pre-applied threadlock/sealant because the hole in the flange is a through hole. Standard torque value for the fastener. I applied new goop and reinstalled.
Yes that is what I was thinking. Some of my stretch bolts are marked with the grade ( and others aren't). So the "10.9" calls out the ultimate strength and where the yield point is in relation to the U.T.S.
Given that the parts shop I deal with won't sell me any of the stretch bolts that the manufacturer says to replace unless I can supply them part numbers, and they won't let me look at their books /screens to get the part numbers, I was considering sourcing matching bolts from my local bolt shop, but due to lack of information of material on many of the original stretch bolts, I gave up on this as too risky to try for a timing belt change, given the consequences of a fastener failure in this area. Also I don't know enough about the quality of generic e.g. "10.9" bolts from a bolt supplier vs. factory supplied bolts.
After looking for a seeming eternity, I eventually found factory parts diagrams with part numbers so have just ordered the o.e.m. bolts. These are what V.W., the engine maker, say have to be replaced for a timing belt change that also involves dismantling the engine mounts at one end to get to. So about $ Aus 200 ( roughly $ US 130 ) later I now have the bolts I need.
I can understand why stretch bolts are used as cylinder head fasteners in modern high performance engines but can't really see the point of making things like idler pulley securing bolts and suspension bolts in this manner, something that ( modern ) V.W. seems to do a lot of.
Thanks to everyone for their comments.