My condolences -- it's a ratty thing to have happen.
+1 on all the mechanical details of what Brett said. I don't use a Brett-style bellcrank because I'm too lazy and because it's easy to whack a decent bellcrank out of phenolic, not because I don't think it's at least a little bit better than phenolic.
On top of what Brett said:
Even assuming that you were using exactly the right epoxy, I'm not sure that gluing the wood in side-grain wouldn't contribute to the delamination: at one point my dad did a lot of experimenting with gluing wood to fiberglass, and basically no matter what he did, eventually the glue joint breaks. Usually it breaks right at the glue-wood interface, leaving a thin layer of wood behind on the glue (in other words, it's the wood that fails, not the glue). It can seem strong as houses, then one day it just falls off with barely a "pop". Our theory was that because of differential expansion between wood and glass, both due to temperature and due to humidity, the joint is continually stressed. Then because wood is not strong in shear, particularly shear in parallel with the grain. So, eventually, the joint just lets go.
If the wood-aluminum joint was made with CA -- well, CA is noted for being very weak in shear, and brittle to boot.
Brett's method of gluing the wood end-grain not only gives you compression strength at the bolt-holes but also, in my humble opinion, isn't going to come unglued as readily. Both the conclusion and the opinion stem from wood being strong in compression in end-grain, but very compliant in both compression and tension across the grain. The compression strength across the bolt-holes is obvious. The lack of delamination is (again in my opinion) because the wood is so compliant across the grain that as the aluminum grows and shrinks with temperature it just carries the wood with it -- the wood just doesn't have enough fight in it to put any stress on the glue joint.
Brett, assuming I ever get up the gumption to make a Brett bellcrank, do you use any old goo from the hobby shop to glue things together, or do you use JB weld, or do you use something even fancier than that?