Howard,
I applaud your caution, but parallel charging is good (and safe) practice if all your batteries are in good condition and you start with them at a similar state of charge. When you first hook them up, before you start the charger, any small differences in the battery packs (voltage) self equalizes (higher charge discharge into lower charge state cells/packs). I tend to use the cell balance connectors even if I am not using the balance function of the charger for a similar reason.
Regarding your concern about differences in internal resistance (IR) among cells and packs, you will have some even though all your packs/cells are from the same manufacturer with the same rating (even when new). As they age (ie.# of charge cycles) their IR will rise slowly. Big differences between packs/cells will introduce some difficulty as the weaker (higher resistance) cells will draw less current during the charge cycle than lower resistance ones. Therefore, the lower resistance ones are gobbling up more of those electrons than the higher resistance ones but the apparent voltage is (because of their greater IR) rising faster in the higher resistance ones than the lower resistance ones. Just like you were charging them separately. Net result is that (though the charge voltage may be similar) at the end of the charge cycle, the IR cells will have less stored umph than the lower IR ones.
OH! If you have packs/cells that have high enough IR that they are warming when charged.......don't.
Honestly, as long as you are charging identical packs that are similar in age....don't worry....be happy. I have been balance charging for a year now and have lived to tell the tale. Rumor is that some have done longer. (Don't you just love new toys!)
Finally, as far as you know, I made all this stuff up and am just trying to make it easier for those other guys (the ones without a sense of humor) to win.
Bob