Chris, in relation to deans plugs melting, I've seen case 1 happen, and case 3.
Case 1, melted when soldering was from a guy using a fine tipped soldering iron on the plug. The plug had just enough heat to melt the solder onto the plug, but not enough to keep the tinned lead AND the plug connector fluid. Effectively when he went to join it all there was too much of a heat sink and the whole thing went cold. He tried to alleviate it buy leaving the iron on the plug till it was all hot enough to melt the solder.
Sadly, the housing melted before the solder did.
The lesson to be learnt here is don't use fine tips for soldering heavy guage leads. The bigger the better. My tip is a solid 3/8" copper rod, and holds enough heat to solder a connection in probably half a second. The housing doesn't even get warm.
Case 3, was over-amping. Back in my early electric days I decided to see how far I could push my EDF jet. On 5S, and running at what I think was around 120 amps, the connectors melted, and shorted together. The aircraft was a write off. So were the connectors, just in case you were wondering