Larry I think this is going to be a pretty HOT thread!
I think in a nutshell the motor almost doesn't matter. It matters if it is too small and overheats or dies trying to to its job but otherwise....
Put it this way, if you have a 5 oz class motor set-up for 9000 RPM on a given prop, then the motor will do its best to deliver. If it is not overloaded it should happily deliver 9000 RPM until....? Put on a larger or smaller prop the motor will still run 9000 RPM. Take the prop OFF completely and---still 9000 RPM.
IF you enlarge the motor to say a 7 oz class motor AND enlarge the prop then reset the rpm for the desired speed then the nature of the thrust has changed (larger disc, lower force enacted on the air = more efficient thrust). I think there is a diminsihing return on prop size too - reduced corner, inability to penetate in the wind, overstress bearings, etc. I think this is where the guys putting 60's in Vectors get surprised.
Bigger motors will run easier (cooler) to do the work required, but even that reaches diminishing returns. However, I am starting to get more conservative on motor selection - erring to larger rather than lighter motors. However, I think the motor is of secondary importance in an ECL machine.
I think it is more important to buy motor FEATURES; large shaft, good bearings, good prop hub, lower current draw - along with things like correct kv for the intended application - THOSE things matter.
All of the thrust and braking is in the prop - and the battery supplies the power. The motor is the converter...