One issue with electrics is that a problem with one component can cause another component to fail.
If the previous motor caused a lot of current to flow in the ESC, it could cause some of the FETs to fail. Now the next time you fly, the remaining FETs have to carry the whole load.
In other words, maybe your first AXI failure broke enough FETs that your Phoenix 45 became a Phoenix 25 (or less). Then the next flight with the new motor draws a normal amount of current, but the degraded ESC can't handle even that amount and the remaining FET's go up in smoke.
I am not too sure how to check the ESC after an incident to know if it is ok.