You've pretty well defined the situation, and I agree...
Lining up the high points of the airfoils does set the sweep. Sweep is 0o, if the high points are at the same percent chord. Otherwise there's some sweep. As you say, if you want a more drastically swept wing, then your high points will be swept and you cannot align them without really changing airfoil shapes ('wing sections'). You can still have your spar go straight spanwise from tip to tip (or edge to edge), but as has been said, you'll have to taper the spar differently, and it might not serve its purpose as well. You can compute this, but if you're cutting foam, you could just measure thickness at the points where you want the spar to run. It won't be linear (straight taper). Most plans do show swept spars at high points for swept wings.
I see sweep as - usually - a compromise in order to proportion flaps or imitate full-sized aircraft in semi-scale. Otherwise, for a stunter, a nice straight, tapered wing seems best to me. I built one (flapless) once with just such a straight, tapered spar, and it flew very well.
So, it looks as though everything's pretty well decided. Best of luck in setting up your plane!
SK