I'm glad we all have our own way of doing things and Forum members are OK with this.
I use silk from Dharma Trading Co. Exclusively.
Wash silk?
I've NEVER EVER washed any silk that I've applied on my models but I do cut my pieces and iron them using steam and ample heat to remove folds. I also draw an "ink line" near the CG to the tip, just for alignment.
Also keep in mind I no longer use dope to apply my silk, so I can pull it board tight and apply silk dry using CA. So even ironing isn't necessary either if silk is applied this way. Ask Dennis, he sees the light!

See the GBR-3 Build where I go over this technique at CFC Graphics vendor's corner.
DRY! CA! Oh my gosh! And it works! Two minutes and my GBR-3 wing top was ready for dope on the open bays.
Here's a metal straight edge from rib to rib on an open bay, no dope yet. Here's a model covered with silk dry using CA.
Keep in mind, all the words and tips/suggestions are fine, but you still have to do it yourself.
Experiment as I did and you will see the light! See the light!!
Especially on Christmas Day!
Nothing going until dinner tonight, so
I have tail feathers to my TEXACO 13 to sand. Progress photos today.
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!